{"id":4154,"date":"2017-04-27T20:21:59","date_gmt":"2017-04-27T19:21:59","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/omily.me\/?p=4154"},"modified":"2017-04-28T05:31:41","modified_gmt":"2017-04-28T04:31:41","slug":"because-we-dont-always-get-over-it","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/omily.me\/en\/because-we-dont-always-get-over-it\/","title":{"rendered":"Because sometimes, we don’t “get over it”"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"[:nl]Omdat<\/p>\n

I’m a list-maker. I just love making lists.<\/p>\n

I love that feeling of putting a check beside a line, of crossing out a line. It gives me a thrill.<\/p>\n

When it comes to dealing with the though stuff of life, I want to put it in a list too. I want to deal with it and get it over with so that I can put a check beside that line.<\/p>\n

But it just so happens to be that you can’t deal with everything by throwing it in a list and checking it of. A pity.<\/p>\n

I started writing baby names in my journal when I\u00a0was 13.<\/p>\n

99% of them girl names.<\/p>\n

I made it my mission to repeat my favorite names to my husband before we were even married, to get him used to the ones he didn’t like.<\/p>\n

It worked (yay me), but we didn’t need the girl name for the first, the second or the third baby.<\/p>\n

And I had the hardest time with that.<\/p>\n

I brought it to God and tried to leave it there, I read this wonderful book about how God redeems our pain, <\/a>and wrote down in my journal that I was fine with it. For a while, I thought I was.<\/p>\n

Then someone close to me got a daughter and I discovered I was not fine with it at all.<\/p>\n

I tried giving my sisters baby girl clothing and made a princess dress for another niece, to enjoy other people’s daughters and for a while I was fine. Until I wasn’t.<\/p>\n

When we got the happy news that another girl had been born I sat down on the kitchen floor and cried all morning, and when I stopped crying I cried because I had cried.<\/p>\n

I read Pain Redeemed <\/a>again and wrote in my journal and concluded that I was over it this time.<\/p>\n

Until another baby girl was born and I cried for 5 days.<\/p>\n

Like lightning shoots and the thunder crashes down, the realization that I was still not over it slapped me in the face and brought me crashing down in a very unelegant and unladylike way.<\/p>\n

I was upset about not having a daughter, about not being over it, about being upset while someone else was overjoyed. So basically, upset. About all the things.<\/p>\n

I may very well never have a daughter, and I may very well never get over that.<\/p>\n

And that is OK.<\/p>\n

I will have to keep on dealing with it.<\/p>\n

Sometimes something will happen, and I will remember.<\/p>\n

It won’t always feel the same, though.<\/p>\n

Sometimes it will be a fact, other times it will be a dull pain, and then there will be times where the longing and wanting will be so fierce that it will be a sharp, physical pain. The feeling of drowning or suffocating, denying air all entrance.<\/p>\n

And through every feeling, every day, will be the God who is enough<\/b><\/i>.<\/p>\n

Who gives me joy and hope and a future.<\/p>\n

Who heals every single wound if I bring it to him instead of trying to fix it or forget it on my own.<\/p>\n

Who felt pain, and who feels my pain.<\/p>\n

Who is not sitting up on His throne ignoring me or rubbing His hands together, satisfied that He has properly hurt me.<\/p>\n

But the one who, after creating a perfect world, did not leave it to itself after men brought evil into it, but who came and rescued with only Love and Mercy and Grace.<\/p>\n

In the end life is not about the things I don’t have<\/a>.<\/p>\n

It isn’t even about the things I do have.<\/p>\n

It’s about the God who made me and who writes my story and invites me, but never forces me, into His story.<\/p>\n

And that, I can check off in my list.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<\/p>\n

I’m a list-maker. I just love making lists.<\/p>\n

I love that feeling of putting a check beside a line, of crossing out a line. It gives me a thrill.<\/p>\n

When it comes to dealing with the though stuff of life, I want to put it in a list too. I want to deal with it and get it over with so that I can put a check beside that line.<\/p>\n

But it just so happens to be that you can’t deal with everything by throwing it in a list and checking it of. A pity.<\/p>\n

I started writing baby names in my journal when I was 13.<\/p>\n

99% of them girl names.<\/p>\n

I made it my mission to repeat my favorite names to my husband before we were even married, to get him used to the ones he didn’t like.<\/p>\n

It worked (yay me), but we didn’t need the girl name for the first, the second or the third baby.<\/p>\n

And I had the hardest time with that.<\/p>\n

I brought it to God and tried to leave it there, I read this wonderful book about how God redeems our pain, and wrote down in my journal that I was […]<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":4162,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[112,47],"tags":[],"yoast_head":"\nBecause sometimes, we don't "get over it" - Omily<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"noindex, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"[:nl]Omdat we er soms niet zomaar overheen geraken[:en]Because sometimes, we don't "get over it"[:] - Omily\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"I’m a list-maker. I just love making lists. I love that feeling of putting a check beside a line, of crossing out a line. 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